Sex News: Huggable, Meter-Long Sex Toy Is ‘Disability Driven’, Savage Love Turns 30 & More

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“The Bump’n Joystick, a one metre-long huggable device with an adaptor to attach sex toys to, is launching in 2022, billed as the world’s “first disability-driven sex toy”.

“Made by Australian startup company Bump’n, the device has a soft huggable section above an adaptor, that sex toys such as vibrators or penis sleeves can be attached to, thereby reducing reliance on the use of hands for sex toy use.

“’Hands are the biggest barrier to sex toys on the market and to an unaided wank. So, we’ve removed the reliance on fine motor skills and hands, transferring it to gross motor skills and larger muscle groups,’” the company says.

The Bump’n Joystick is billed as gender-fluid, with the adaptor section having a variety of holes that vibrators, dildos, penis sleeves and wands can be attached to.” (via Jamie F/SexTechGuide)

“Dan Savage has spent the past 30 years answering the public’s questions about sex, love and relationships in his signature unflinching, no-nonsense style… even if it’s meant making missteps along the way. The Savage Love advice columnist offers his take on holding himself accountable, and how he’s witnessed conversations surrounding intimacy evolve over three decades.” (via CBC Radio)

“D: We actually used have sex more often. But in the past month my sex drive has changed a lot. I was on testosterone for the past year and a bit. Then, a couple of months ago, I decided I didn’t want to be on testosterone anymore, because I’d gotten all the changes from it that I wanted. I’m a lot more comfortable with my body now than I was pre-transition. But it has been a big hormonal adjustment for me, and my physical, emotional and mental wellbeing have changed quite a bit, so now I have a different relationship with myself and how much I want sex. Sex hasn’t gotten worse, it’s just I don’t feel like having sex as much, and I do most of the initiating between us. Before, every day – like, minimum – I would initiate sex. But now it’s like a few times a week.

“C: I ignored that I had several disabilities that impacted things like my mobility and my energy levels. For years, I basically tried to appear as not disabled as possible. It’s impossible, and also really bad. It’s the main reason my health got really bad earlier this year, because I’d been doing that for so long. In the last couple of months, I’ve had to come to terms and accept that I actually am disabled and need to use mobility aids and things like that. So part of that has been having conversations about how it affects our sex life, or how things we do during sex aren’t accessible for me. There are things that I want to do, but physically can’t because of my disabilities.” (via Nana Bash/Vice)

I didn’t have a single moment of clarity where I embraced myself as I am — instead, I slowly taught myself to fall in love with my culture again. I learned how to be proud of the strong-smelling food from the kitchen, the music with stronger beats. My skin color was beautiful to me. Yes, I was different than a lot of my friends, but that wasn’t a bad thing. The gaps in those differences became smaller and the isolation less painful as I diversified my friendship group, and the alienation I felt no longer manifested in such a self-destructive way. And when I started to learn that other people’s opinions didn’t matter as much as I believed they did, I fell in love with someone who is excited to learn about my Blackness. I still struggle with my self-esteem, but now instead of putting up with racism, I teach people, even if I have to be loud enough for them to think I’m a “threat.” (via Lola Renn/Autostraddle)

Image source: Bump’n

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